College Bound...he's ready, but am I?

Thoughts on leaving your child at University, and a special prayer to help you survive it!

The day I've been dreading has arrived. Today, I will help my son move into his dorm room and then leave him there.....waaaaa! I'm really not sure I'm ready for this, but he is, so I've gotta suck it up.

I'm so proud of this young man that we've had the blessing to raise for the last 18 years.

He's smart, handsome, confident, gifted in so many ways, loves the Lord with all his heart and is quick to help others.

He's ready to spread his wings...

Dear Lord,

He moves into the dorm this week and will bring his bags filled with clothes and his boxes filled with books. You see what he brings in his heart – anticipation, adventure, love, regret, anxiety, motivation, and hope.

He is a mix of excited, ready, terrified, and wide-eyed freedom.

As he looks for a fresh start, remind him of your faithfulness every morning no matter where he calls home.

As he looks for community, remind him you are always with him no matter where he may go.

As he looks for adventure, remind him how you walk on water, turn water to wine, feed thousands from just a few pieces of bread. Remind him how you bring life straight up out of death, beauty straight out of ashes.

May he have the patience to believe even when he doesn't see results.

May he know the greatest adventures are found in your presence, the greatest love comes from your heart, the greatest hope is that you’ve made his heart your home.

When insecurity, comparison, disappointment and failure knock on his dorm room door, may he turn to you with his questions rather than run the other way.

Weave your wisdom into the fibers of his soul, bearing the fruit of confidence, clarity, contentment and a light heart.

May he not despise his humanity, rather may he embrace it.

May he not despise his weakness, rather may he see how weakness brings a daily reminder to trust.

May he not fear failure, rather may he thrive in the midst of it.

May he not be quick to judge, rather may he be patient and curious.

Help him to find true friends and be a true friend in turn.

Help him find his voice and to use it to be an advocate for himself and for others.

Replace his shame with courage.

Replace his confusion with peace.

Replace his fear with a love that moves within him beyond his ability to understand.

May your grace surprise him kindly.


(adapted from A Sending Prayer by Chatting to the Sky

Have you had a son or daughter leave home before you were ready? How did you handle it?

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  1. Yes and no. I raised 15 children, many who were special needs adopted. So when some left I thought I would never recover and when others left I had great relief! But either way, each time our family dynamics changed drastically. But, you do learn to get along and you do eventually settle in to a changed way of living. Ask for an extra dose of God's Grace - I will pray for you today, friend!

    1. Wow, 15 kids! Kudos to you my friend! Thank you for the encouragement and the prayers!

  2. Hi Cindy! I recently dropped my second daughter off at college. It really doesn't get any easier. We always cry and I miss both of them so much. My son is 10 so I still have a few more years with him. Love your blog! -- Sabine

    1. Thank you Sabine...I have felt so blue all week...I guess it's just a part of life and love, right? My daughter is 10 also and I'm so glad I won't have to let her go too soon!
      Thanks for your encouragement,


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